Love and Marriage

This is a rebuttal to the 'Divorce' article.

Love is interesting.  Marriage is an enigma.  You grow up and probably never think too much about either (unless you're one of those girls.. haha) - until you're confronted with a situation that blasts one or the other in your face, in a good way.  In high school you maybe dated a few people, maybe a lot of people, or maybe none.  You cruise through those people without an inkling of where it will go, and namely, how it will end, which it inevitably does (except for those rare few...).  Along the way, you might fall in love once or twice.  You play this game even after graduating high school.  You play it in college, or if you're the promiscuous type, you don't.  You play this game into your 20s and even into your 30s, or maybe you don't.  Along this journey, you may just fall in love and you may just have found that certain someone.  You never really know.  Some people date for years and it ends.  Some people date for only months and decide there is no one else with which they'd rather be.  But once it gets into you, you know.

Personally, I have dated people in the past.  I have fallen in love.  Just as easily (and quickly,  relatively speaking), I have fallen out of love.  This happened twice.  I met Kristen and we started dating.  We never knew where it was going or how and/or if it would end.  She was in graduate school and we didn't know if it/I was just a fling...  The relationship prospered... three, four, five months.  We knew we were in love.  We shared and vocalized that emotion.  We dated several more years - we moved in together.  We lasted longer than any relationship I have ever had, by leaps and bounds.  I never knew what to expect at the outset of this endeavor, but I knew, when we surpassed that point, that something was different about this relationship and something was going to make it different and more prosperous than any of those before it...  At one point, I knew I'd marry this girl and spend the rest of my life with her.  

We have been married for over 5 months and together over 5 years.   We share a bond, an unspoken chemistry and harmony.  I am the yin, she the yang, or vice versa depending on your perspective and explanation of that analogy.  I knew she'd be the ONE, because I just DID.  When you get to that point, you know.  If you don't know, you're not to that point, and may never be.  But when you know, it is a cool instance of enlightenment - and the anticipation up to the point where you make that bond official is excruciating, in a good way.  

I am not the only one to experience this, not by a long shot.  Nor am I the only one of me I know.  Many of my friends and family have gone down the same path, and you can see it happen.  You know the people who are your friends.  You know their "type".  You know how they react and respond in a relationship.  You've seen them fail, you've seen them succeed.  You seen them fail once or maybe even twice, then they meet the right person and it becomes the most perfect match you can imagine - a Eureka! or Ah-ha! moment.  It has been fun for me to watch a majority of my friends meet and define an everlasting bond with their significant others.

This post isn't meant to be mushy, although I suppose it somewhat is.  Rather, it is meant to be a public service announcement to those of you who have been through this, are going through it, want to experience it, or are watching it unfold for someone you know.  In any instance, I hope this makes you think about those people, whoever they are, and appreciate how lucky, yes lucky, you and they are to be fortunate enough to find that one person that moves them or you in such a way that you both know you want to grow old together and share in good times and bad.

Tell someone you love them today.